October gave a party; The leaves by hundreds came – The Chestnuts, Oaks, and Maples, And leaves of every name. The Sunshine spread a carpet, And everything was grand, Miss Weather led the dancing, Professor Wind the band. – George Cooper
October, 2009
Quote for the Week: “October Party”
Are we born happy or is it leaned?
Who comes first in your life? I can bet that just about everyone but you comes first. Why is that? Is it because that is what you learned when you were young? Did your role models put everyone else’s needs before their own? Probably. Now, look back and try to recall if those role models exhibited happiness and fulfillment? I bet they didn’t. How do we learn to be happy and fulfilled if we were not taught how or didn’t have role models who modeled those behaviors for us? Is there a switch we can flip on or a certain age/time when we magically find happiness and fulfillment? No. Could this be why so many of us find it hard to be happy? Do we just not know how? Is the ability to find and/or create something we are born with or is it a learned behavior?
I do not have the answers to these questions, although I wish I did! I am just as perplexed about these questions as everyone else is. What I do know is that whatever the case, I must find happiness within myself before I can give it to others. I also know that my positive outlook and overall level of happiness – on a consistent basis – helps others be happier. I have found that by taking care of my own needs and doing things that help me feel fulfilled, it is easier for me to be happier and then share that happiness with others.
Remember, you cannot give away what you do not have. Find, create, manifest, fabricate or do whatever it is you need to do to put yourself first (without guilt from within or from others) and know that by getting to that level of happiness, you will be able to model it and give it to others. Be the happiness you want to see in the world!
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Quote for the Week
“When you talk to yourself in your mind, which self do you address? And how? Usually people do not talk to their divinity, but to the most superficial aspects of their everyday personality. And often its a stream of fears, complaints and mindless repetition of old things. If we talked that way to another human being, we would have to apologise. Learning to talk properly to the self is a spiritual endeavour. Thoughts from the past and worries about the future do not create good conversation. Instead learn to talk to your mind as if it were a child. Talk to it with love. If you just force a child to sit down, he won’t. A good mother knows how to prompt her child into doing what she wants. Be a good mother to your mind, teach it good, positive thoughts so that when you tell it to sit quietly, it will. Love your mind. Stay happy.” – Innerspace
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Quote for the Week: Don’t Quit
Don’t Quit
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about,
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than,
It seems to a faint and faltering man,
Often the struggler has given up,
When he might have captured the victor’s cup,
And he learned too late when the night slipped down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out–
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far,
So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–
It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.
- Author unknown
Retail Therapy
Many people say money does not buy you happiness. To some extent, I agree with them, but I must confess unashamedly, that I do enjoy the finer things in life and money allows me to have those things. Eleven months ago, I quit a good job making over six figures a year. When I was making that kind of money independently, I did not worry much about $500 a weekend on shopping sprees. My husband and I have always had separate banking accounts, so as long as my portion of the bills were paid, the rest was for me to use at my discretion. I knew that quitting my job would change all of that, as we would be living mostly off his income combined with whatever I made through my new ventures. In my adult life, I have never asked for money from anyone until this last year. It was hard for me to ask my husband for money at first. I even cried the first couple of times he gave me ‘spending money.’ I know he was proud to be able to give me money and my tears did not make sense to him. They did not make sense to me either.
At the beginning, I would save the money he gave me and only spend what was absolutely necessary. Then one day, just recently, I realized that it was time to take care of some things I had let go – like a new haircut and color and all new makeup, which were not cheap, and I bought a few new things like shoes, purses, tops, and accessories. It is amazing how good it feels to take some time out to do some things for myself. As I said before, I do like high-end things and I always will. I quit my job, but I did not quit my taste for luxury. I hear people say all the time that there is no difference between a designer label and a knock-off. On some things that may be correct. In general, though, my experience has been that the person who uses that saying has never experienced the high-end things. For instance, once you own a great pair of high-end designer jeans, I promise you will never go back to the cheapies again except for the ones you would wear for yard work or other thrasher activities. I would much rather have a couple of great fitting designer jeans than a closet full of inexpensive jeans that just don’t fit right, that don’t hold their shape and that fade. I will not compromise no matter what on just some things.
I knew that quitting my job would require me to make some lifestyle changes, but I also knew the changes would only be temporary. Our financial situation is ever improving and things are getting back to where they were before I quit my job. By no means am I making six figures doing what I am doing (yet), but my husband’s business is booming. I am happy I get to see the growth of his company as I used to travel extensively with my old job and would miss many of the fun things he had going on. Now I get to be at all events and consult with my husband on all major business decisions. Could that be another reason the business has skyrocketed this year? I would like to think so.
It is true that money does not buy happiness, but it sure makes things easier. Are designer labels important? Maybe not, but I do enjoy the quality of some of the nicer things. I did not quit my job to downgrade my lifestyle forever. I quit my job so that I could make money building my own business doing what I enjoy and in time experience an even more luxurious lifestyle. I find that sometimes the best therapy is retail therapy and it is conveniently located at the mall.
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Quote for the Week – The Optimist Creed
The Optimist Creed
I promise myself
To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, & prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is
something worthwhile in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything
& make my optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best,
& to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as I am about my own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on
to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times &
give a smile to every living creature I meet.
To give so much time to improving myself
that I have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
& too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself & to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud word, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side,
so long as I am true to the best that is in me.
–Christian D. Larson
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