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Depression During the Holidays
You or someone you care about may be out of sorts right now. During this time of year, people should be happy and festive, and yet this time of year can be difficult for so many reasons. It is important for us all to recognize that the holidays can stir emotions in people that otherwise would lie dormant the other 11 or so months of the year.
If you or a loved one seems to be unusually sad or quick to anger right now, consider what pressures or emotions might be at the forefront of their thoughts. Some of the top reasons people become depressed during the holidays are:
- Finances are tight and therefore could limit gift-giving making people embarrassed
- Missing a loved one that has passed away or no longer in his or her life
- Feeling like a failure for not achieving or attaining his or her goals this past year
- Self-esteem issues around feeling overweight or unattractive as social gatherings approach
- Fear of not being remembered with cards, gifts or invitations to events
- Overwhelmed with the amount of stuff to do, places to go and people to please
If you are feeling sad and blue right now, know that everything will be okay. You are not alone as this is a difficult time for many. It is also okay to take time to get in touch with what is bringing you down. You might find it helpful to write out your feelings. After you get it all out, I would then encourage writing down all the positive and happy things you have to be grateful in your life. Take the time to reflect on all that is good and right in your world and allow the warm and happy thoughts to grow and overshadow the sadness you were feeling. Each time you begin to feel sad, frustrated or fall into the negative self-talk, STOP and focus your attention on the ‘good’ list.
If you are seeing signs of sadness or depression in others, be a little more patient right now. Your compassion may be what he or she needs more than anything you can say or do. The biggest gift you may be able to give that person right now is the gift of love and understanding.
Every one of us has highs and lows in life. It stinks to experience a low during the time of year when everyone is expected to be brimming with joy, but you can turn this around and make this a happy holiday season. Check out my recent blog post, Plan for a Joyous Holiday Season for tips to help you have a more peaceful holiday season filled with joyous memories. Be patient with yourself, give yourself positive self-talk, be grateful for what you have and be aware of the gift of kindness from others.
Happiest holidays to you!

Tags: depression, happiness, Holiday tips, joy, positive self-talk, sadness
When the Going Gets Tough

When the going gets tough, what do you do?
We have all heard the saying, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going,” right? It is one of those sayings people spit out with gusto and sometimes accompanied by a little fist pounding for a little added gusto. Truth is though; most people either run or give up when the going gets tough.
Question for you – When the going gets tough, what do you do?
a) Gear up and get tough
b) Run like the wind
c) Curl up in the fetal position and suck your thumb
It is important to identify your natural inclination when it comes to facing the tough times. If you are a runner or one that gives up, now is the time to change and here is why… If you run, there is a distinct possibility ‘it’ will follow you AND as it follows, it may get bigger and pick up speed. Think of it as a great big snowball. As you are running away, it rolls along behind you picking up more snow as it goes. The additional snow makes it bigger and heavier until it is looming over you casting a shadow on the path in front of you. You cannot keep running forever and eventually you will have to stop. The snowball will not stop though and you will become a body impression in the frozen tundra as the giant snowball smacks you in the rear and runs you over. Do you want to be a frozen snowball casualty? I hope not!

How about those who give up? Imagine, there you are – facing a crisis and like a little kid in Wal-Mart not getting their way, you plop yourself down on the floor and begin to wail uncontrollably. You create your own personal little Pity Party located in the land of Denial. Denial is a terrible dark place where many people have been known to get lost for years. While in the land of Denial, you are free to bang your head against the wall with reckless abandon or sit in the corner and pretend everything is all right. However, on the outskirts of Denial is the city of Reality. It can also be a harsh place, but the truth is that if you face the harsh elements for just a short time, the sun always comes out and things will get better.
Now, let’s talk about how to fight with the intent to win. The first thing I think we all need to realize and remember is that there will be crisis in your life. Nobody is immune to times of trouble. Even that perfect family down the street or that co-worker who appears to have a magic wand that makes everything okay has troubles. It is in how we deal with troubles that sets us apart. Let’s be fighters.
First step to fighting crisis is to acknowledge it. Look at crisis as a big fat ugly bully. We all know that the best way to deal with a bully is to stand up to him or her. I suggest you find a private remote location, double up your fists as if you are about to punch someone in the jaw and scream this at the top of your lungs, “I am mad as hell and I’m not going to take it anymore!” You have just set the boundary. In that one sentence you acknowledged the situation, you acknowledged the anger associated with it, you stated that you have had enough and that things are going to change. The next step is to make the change – and this is where the work/fight comes in.
In order for you to make a change, you first need to identify the problem. Before moving on, take some time to identify one particular area in your life that you are either running from or in denial about. This may be easy for some as you have reached the ‘mad as hell’ stage and you are ready to make that change. For some, this may take a little more time thinking it through and digging deep. Go ahead, take some time and do that now….
Once you have identified that particular area you are ready to face, write it down. Write down in detail what ‘it’ is. Be specific and be sure to write down how it makes you feel and how it has affected your life. This is the “dump” step. This is your opportunity to get it all out quickly and completely. I suggest writing it out without regard to grammar or spelling or you can even say it into a recorder. Whatever method suits you – get it out and put emotion behind it! Often times, just in identifying the problem and acknowledging it will remove a big weight off you. Think of that snowball casting a shadow over you. Once you turn and face that snowball, it will begin to melt. The built up layers begin to shed away and that once huge and ominous problem begins to seem smaller and more manageable.
It is now time to make a plan on how to deal with the situation. A good strategy here is to make a list of action steps that you can follow, one by one, to address to situation. By having clearly defined action steps, you make the process more manageable by dealing with bite-size pieces versus trying to eat the whole pie at once. An action plan is worthless if you do not put action to it – so get busy and start working the plan. As you are working through the steps, remember, plans can change so be flexible. You may have to step back, reevaluate the situation and approach things a little differently from time to time.
As you continue to work through dealing with tough situations, make sure you ask for help or call upon a professional if needed. There may be times when a problem is too big for you to deal with alone. It takes a strong person to ask for help and I KNOW you are strong enough to know when to reach out!
My last bit of advice here – Face your problems head on from now on. You are strong, you are capable and there is nothing you cannot do!
Tags: attitude, Business, career, decisions, determination, happiness, joy, motivation, positive, self-improvement
Be Bold and Overcome Fears
Angie’s Freefall 21 stories at Zero Gravity in Dallas
If you know me, you will know that I am generally a reserved person. When things are going crazy and people are losing their minds, I remain the calm in the storm. I am the grounded one, the one that helps keep everyone focused and on track. These are admirable traits in most people – at least that is what people tell me. However, sometimes reserved and calm can equal boring. This last year, when I quit my job, I made a commitment to do things that I normally would not do and to take more risks. This video is of my conquering two of my fears – the fear of heights and of falling. I have to admit, being lifted up 21 stories, hovering over a net and then allowing someone to release me was scary and hard to take. There were several times when I wanted to back out of it. My stomach flipped then flopped. My heart pounded and my palms sweated. I had such a death-grip on the railing of the platform they hoists you up in, that I had to consciously talk myself into letting go. The dangling over the net seemed like it took forever, but the fall was quick and painless. I am proud of myself for doing it and not chickening out. Will I do it again? Probably not. Enjoy the video my husband, Tommy, put together. He made a few creative edits – I hope you get a few good laughs from it. I did!
Tags: attitude, conquer fears, conquer your fears, fear of falling, fear of heights, joy, living life, overcoming fear, self-improvement, Zero Gravity
The BIG Prize – A short story
Imagine you wake up one day to find yourself living in a small town called Homerville, Georgia. You have a small house, a car and a note that says, “Find your way to Turtle Lake, North Dakota by yourself to receive a BIG prize.” You tuck the note in your pocket and sit back to contemplate the situation. Over time, you start to see that Homerville is a comfortable and quiet little town. Everything in Homerville is within walking distance and therefore you do not see a need to bother with the car right now. While you continue to contemplate the BIG prize that is supposedly in North Dakota, you settle into life in Homerville. You make friends and you find a job. The job doesn’t pay much and it certainly doesn’t challenge you, but it’s a job and it is better than most of the jobs your new friends have.
After a little while, you begin to get bored. The small town life does not have enough excitement for you. You keep feeling the note in your pocket and wondering what it would be like to jump in that car to make your way to North Dakota and the BIG prize – whatever it is. As you are imagining the adventures you could have, a little voice in your head begins to tell you how scary it would be to make that journey. The voice starts to list all of the things that could possibly go wrong along the way and you begin to doubt you could ever make that trip alone, so you decide to stay in Homerville where it is safe and easy to get by. Time passes and now you are really bored and feeling ready to make a change. You are almost to that point of jumping in that car and heading to North Dakota when you realize you do not know how to get there. You decide to check the car to see if there is a map in it and to your surprise, you find that it has a GPS with Turtle Lake already programmed into it!
Now that you have reached the depths of boredom and you have built up the courage to head north, you tell all your friends goodbye, telling them you are heading north where a big prize is waiting for you. Your friends look at you as if you are crazy; some tell you to your face that you are crazy and some just pity you and talk behind your back. They know there is nothing worthwhile out there and they know for sure that no BIG prize is waiting for you anywhere. You don’t listen to them though. You are determined and energized as you jump in the car and start out on this new and hopefully exciting adventure. You have traveled in the direction the GPS has told you to go when the GPS tells you to take a left turn and head south for 100 miles. It seems strange to you that you would need to head south, but you trust the GPS and head south anyway. While you are driving along, that little voice comes back again and this time it is telling you that you cannot be going the right direction. You dismiss the voice and focus all of your attention on the directions from the GPS, after all, it is the expert here and it surely has to be right. And at the end of that 100 miles, it tells you to turn left and head east for 100 miles… The voice in your head is now screaming at you, telling you the GPS is wrong and if you make that left turn, you will end up back at Homerville. You pull into a rest stop where you sit paralyzed and confused.
Now you begin to hear an internal conflict raging in your head. The voices are screaming at each other – one is blaming the other for ever convincing you to take the risk to head towards some unknown and uncertain prize and the other voice is saying that the road trip has been better than sitting in that boring little town wasting away. You begin to beat the steering wheel and dashboard. You are angry, frustrated, scared, and feeling lost. You know if you go back to Homerville everyone will laugh at you and say, “I told you so.” You are beating the dashboard harder and sobbing when all of a sudden the GPS goes blank. Then the voice of reason calmly and rationally kicks in. This voice tells you to enter in the directions for Turtle Creek, North Dakota one more time. After a few moments, the directions pop up, you scroll through the turn-by-turn map, and you begin to see that if you follow these new directions, you will be heading north and end up in Turtle Creek, North Dakota. After a little more checking you find that the previous programmed directions were for Turtle Creek, Florida. You were heading towards the wrong Turtle Creek! You realize that you never verified the directions in the GPS to begin with. You followed the directions as the so-called expert told you, but they were not the directions for where you wanted to go.
After you regain your composure and gather your wits about you, you turn the car around and make the journey north. You have a few setbacks along the way including a flat tire, which you fix, and a few unexpected detours that the GPS could not help you through, but you figure them out and get back on course. You keep focusing on the BIG prize waiting for you and as you get closer, your excitement grows. You begin to imagine what is waiting for you. You think about all of the wonderful things you have secretly longed for over the years. Along those long lonely highways, you have plenty of time to imagine clearly everything down to the smallest detail. You think about fame, fortune, family and a future of fun. The anticipation builds so much that you do not even realize that all doubt is gone. You do not even think about the possibility that there won’t be a BIG prize in North Dakota for you. You only focus on all of the possibilities that are ahead of you.
With joy and enthusiasm, you drive into Turtle Creek, North Dakota. Upon entering the town square, you see a banner hanging above the main street with your name on it welcoming you! The town’s people rush to greet you, telling you they have been waiting for you. The people are warm, friendly, and eager to take you to your BIG prize. Your heart is pumping and you are filled with delight with all of the excitement around you. As you make your way to the little gazebo in the center of the square, you see a BIG box with a BIG red bow on top. You are told that within that box is your BIG prize. One of the voices in your head tells you to run up there, rip open the box, and claim your prize. Another voice warns you that the prize may not meet your expectations. You think back on your journey with all the trials, tribulations, and self-doubt and how you overcame it all. You reflect on the lessons you learned along the way and your eyes fill with pride – pride in yourself.
You make your way to the box as the crowd gathers around to support and encourage you. You feel the energy all around you – and you open the box. Within that box is the BIGGEST prize you could ever hope for or imagine. You know instantly that the journey, with all of its ups and downs was worth it. You knew at that instant that leaving that safe, cold and status-quo life in Homerville was worth it. You worked hard for this BIG prize and you will enjoy every moment of it!
As you celebrate with your new friends over a big feast, you notice a note next to your plate. It looks strangely familiar and you hesitate picking it up. It looks just like the note from Homerville telling you of a BIG prize in Turtle Creek. You pick it up and it reads, “Enjoy your time in Turtle Creek. The journey does not end here. Soon, you will learn it’s time to move on to receive your next BIG prize.”
Tags: attitude, Boredom, choices, decisions, faith, happiness, happy, hope, Hopefulness, joy, life's journey, motivation, positive, priorities, risk, short story
Plan for a Joyous Holiday Season
It is Thanksgiving week and the official kick off the holiday season. This time of year can get crazy hectic and the strain on our time, emotions and pocketbook can be overwhelming. I know, I have stressed myself out more years than not and through those experiences, I have learned a few valuable lessons that I must remind myself of each year. I am sharing those lessons with you so that you may also feel more emotionally energized and joyous throughout this holiday season.
- Remember the real and true reason for the season. The holiday season is a time to be thankful for all of our blessings, big and small. It is a time to relive fond memories and make new memories with loved ones. This is also a time to honor your religious beliefs and traditions. Be grateful, give thanks, make memories, honor traditions and practice your faith.
- Keep things in perspective, do only what you can without feeling resentful or going both financially and emotionally broke. I know that during the other 10 months of the non-holiday season, the demands are already high and then when those two magical months roll around, the demands on us can be seemingly impossible. Do you know why? Because we expect it, we have become accustomed to it, and we ALLOW it. It is too late now to tell you about planning all year by picking up small thoughtful gifts along the way or to make your gifts throughout the year – I will save that blog post for January. Now that we are entering the fury of the season, it is time to prioritize and make a plan.
- Set a budget - Budget for the gifts, wrapping supplies, food for entertaining or potlucks, home improvements before company comes, party clothes, haircuts, manicures, and donations….
- Write out gift list – Come up with gifts that are thoughtful, meaningful and purposeful. Once your list is complete, put your left hand on the list, raise your right hand, and say this oath: “I, (your name), vow to stick to this list and will not add to it without removing something else. I will stick to my budget. I will enjoy giving from the heart. I will remember the reason for the season.”
- Create calendar/schedule – Start with the important events, like school plays/pageants, religious events/gatherings, family get-togethers and mandatory work functions. Then put down events with friends. It is also good to schedule time for yourself and a few quiet times with your significant other. That time can be as simple as meeting for a cup of coffee at your local coffee house or romantic as sharing a bubble bath and reciprocal massages. Next, add in deadlines for things like gift and holiday meal shopping, gift-wrapping, and personal care like manicures, hair appointments. Remember to schedule babysitters as necessary right away, as they get booked up too.
- Set expectations for the season – If this is going to be a lean year for your family where previous years may have allowed you to be more liberal and extravagant with gifts, now is the time to start talking with the kids to let them know this year is going to be different. In a positive and up-beat way, help your family understand that this year will be a year of focusing on family time, creating memories, and honoring of faith. It is best to prepare your family for any changes from previous years rather than face confused and letdown faces later.
- Be the barometer – Be the one that sets an optimistic and enthusiastic environment. Keep your focus on what is important and avoid emotional energy zappers. There may be changes in your holiday this year – let them leave positive impressions on those around you. You have more control of your surroundings than you may even realize. You set the tone, temperature, bass, treble, and volume. You can radiate an attitude of abundance and help others feel the joy of the season.
I hope these steps help you have a more peaceful holiday season filled with joyous memories. By taking the time to plan and sticking to the plan, you will find more time to enjoy with those that matter most to you and in a way that truly reflects the abundance that is around you all year long.
Many blessing to you!
Tags: abundance, Chanukah, christmas, faith, Hanukkah, happiness, Holiday tips, joy
Quote for the Week: Thanksgiving Delights

Thanksgiving Delights
On Thanksgiving Day we’re thankful for
Our blessings all year through,
For family we dearly love,
For good friends, old and new.
For sun to light and warm our days,
For stars that glow at night,
For trees of green and skies of blue,
And puffy clouds of white.
We’re grateful for our eyes that see
The beauty all around,
For arms to hug, and legs to walk,
And ears to hear each sound.
The list of all we’re grateful for
Would fill a great big book;
Our thankful hearts find new delights
Everywhere we look!
- By Joanna Fuchs
Tags: gratitude, happy, joy, Quote, Thanksgiving, Thanksgiving Day, Thanksgiving poem, Thanksgiving Quote
Getting Back on Track
Lately I have been a little off track and not focusing on my own goals and dreams. Somewhere along the line, I started focusing on the needs of others more than my own and I began to neglect those things that make me happy. Here I am, the one who is always telling people to make their dreams a reality and do what makes you happy, and I wasn’t doing it myself. I was trying to help others only to find at the end of the day that I had not really done much to help myself. Why did I let this happen? I’m not exactly sure, but what I do know is that I won’t move forward if I keep looking back and beating myself up about it. So, move forward I must!
One hard thing about making the change to focus on my own needs, goals and aspirations is that the other people I’ve been tending to may have a difficult time understanding why I’m not there for them as much as before. To be fair to those involved, I have made it clear that I will always be there for them and that this shift in my focus is not intended to slight anyone – instead it is to make me happier and more pleasant to be around. I am aware that this change may be difficult for some to adapt to, but in the end, I believe they will come around when they see that I am happier and more fulfilled. Honestly, it’s not that I won’t be there, it’s just time to let others take a more active role in their own lives – like I will be doing.
All that being said – I will be writing again and focusing on the growth of my own business. My new radio show on Diva Toolbox Radio, “What’s Your Bottom Line?” is doing very well. I am excited about the quality of guests I have had on the show and the number of visitors and downloads has been encouraging. I am working on closing a couple of sponsor deals and booking more guests. After the New Year I will be expanding my coaching business and offering a few new learning journey programs. Stay tuned!
I appreciate all the support and encouragement I get from my family and friends. We are all in the game of life together and as we continue to support, encourage and edify others we will have richer and more fulfilled lives.
My best to you for a blessed day filled with success and happiness!
Tags: attitude, choices, determination, emotions, entrepreneurship, faith, happiness, happy, motivation, self-awareness, self-improvement
Quote for the Week – “What a Wonderful World”
What a Wonderful World
I see trees of green, red roses too
I see them bloom, for me and you
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world
I see skies of blue, and clouds of white
The bright blessed day, the dark sacred night
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world
The colors of the rainbow, so pretty in the sky
Are also on the faces, of people going by
I see friends shaking hands, sayin’ “how do you do?”
They’re really sayin’ “I love you”
I hear babies cryin’, I watch them grow
They’ll learn much more, than I’ll ever know
And I think to myself, what a wonderful world
Yes I think to myself, what a wonderful world
- Louis Armstrong
Note: This is my favorite song. It is one of my ring tones and I play it often to lift my spirits and to remind myself of all the good and positive there is in the world – if we open our eyes, ears and hearts to it.
Tags: attitude, happiness, happy, joy, life, Louis Armstrong, motivation, positive, What a wonderful world
Quote for the Week: “October Party”
October gave a party; The leaves by hundreds came – The Chestnuts, Oaks, and Maples, And leaves of every name. The Sunshine spread a carpet, And everything was grand, Miss Weather led the dancing, Professor Wind the band. – George Cooper





