Do you know how rare it is to appreciate yourself and also show appreciation to others? Most people are better at the latter and avoid accepting compliments with gratitude. How many times in your life have you shown your appreciation to others and said something like, “you know what I like about you?” and then follow it up with a lengthy list of admirable qualities you see in them? I can’t even count the number of times I’ve told others what I like about them. I think that the ability to quickly identify admirable characteristics in others is a gift, and I enjoy honoring others. Appreciation provides validation Appreciation is a powerful motivator; it provides validation and shows your gratitude. It’s part of human nature to crave recognition and appreciation. It’s not a bad thing to want credit, no matter what anyone tells you or what you may be telling yourself. It feels good to be praised for who we are or what we do. Think about how good it feels when someone points out your outstanding qualities. It feels good to be acknowledged. I know it feels great to see someone light up when I point out how awesome I think they are. Missed opportunities Too often in life, I feel like people resist praise and miss opportunities to show appreciation to others. Whether it’s because we’re busy with our own lives, or if it’s because we don’t feel comfortable with that type of conversation, the moments pass and become a missed opportunity to make someone’s day. Recognize your own greatness As awkward as it can be to shower others with praise, it can be even more challenging to recognize our own greatness. Many years ago, I realized that I was quick to overlook how awesome I was. After…
Over the years, I have learned a lot about people – and to this day, what continues to baffle me how many people look for the negatives in every situation. I feel like those people are determined to find something wrong or bad just to have a reason to complain. To make things worse, they then spread their negativity around like a terrible virus. This is not a new revelation for me. I have known and studied many people like this over the years, but when it hits close to home, being someone who I’ve spent a lot of time with, it still surprises me. I happen to have the opposite outlook on life. I almost always look for the good in every situation. If something happens I don’t approve of or I disagree with, I either let it go and go on about my day or I try to voice my feelings in a positive way and then move on with my life. It is obvious that some people go through their day looking and waiting for something to latch onto that they can put a nasty spin on and then blast it out to anyone and everyone they can reach. Why? I don’t understand it. I get it, but I still don’t understand it. Misery loves company I went to bed thinking about this last night and woke this morning with this idiom, “Misery loves company,” stuck in my head. Unfortunately, it is true that unhappy people like other people to be unhappy too. I suppose the opposite can be said about happy people as well. By nature, I am a happy person and I want other people to be happy too. I choose a positive attitude Admittedly, I am Pollyannaish (someone who seems always to be able…